How often do you sign a major contract without reading it first? Hopefully not often. Well you would be surprised how few people are involved in even reading their vows before the ceremony. Most people spend hours planning for their wedding, and months working to pay for it, yet very rarely do couples ask what they are committing to, let alone help create the contract.
If you were to negotiate an important business merger would you show up on the day of signing the contract having not read it yet? Of course not. If it were a business merger you would want to know what you were signing, consult with a trusted advisor and then alter the document to better fit your long term needs. So why would a commitment you are taking to your grave be any different?
At Aloha Ever After you are certainly not required to write your own vows or even to read them before the wedding but you are certainly welcome to! I would strongly advise that you consider at least asking for a copy of your vows before your wedding day and making sure you agree with them. You are about to make a commitment for life, so you best be sure you agree 100% with what you’re committing to!
It’s perfectly fine to ask to speak to and consult with your minister as much as you need to make sure that you feel comfortable with your vows. It is also perfectly fine to take out anything you don’t feel ready to commit to. It’s much better not to commit to something you don’t fully believe in than to say it and not mean it! It is also of course wonderful to add in anything you would like to add to further personalize your sacred commitment. After all, it’s you making the commitment, not the minister!
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